Consistency, the Secret of Sustained Success.

Most of us are consistent about habits in our lives, like brushing our teeth or getting dressed on a morning (I hope!!) … but when we desire to see results of change in our world oftentimes we fall short because we simply failed to stick with it. What if the difference between where you are and where you want to be is largely down to one thing that you have complete control over …being CONSISTENT?

I would go as far to say that the difference in your life this year could be down to how CONSISTENT you can be.

It sounds simple, but how consistent are we with our exercise, diet, things we’ve said ‘yes’ to at work, making time for personal growth – all those things we’re told we should be doing? Our aspirations cannot be fulfilled unless we are deliberate in disciplining ourselves till those aspirations become habit. That means even when there’s no one there to motivate or inspire.

Discipline is that inner ‘do it’ when we could choose ‘not to’, yet we choose ‘to’ because of a predetermined lifestyle choice. Every time we choose ‘to’ we are forming a habit. Eventually, these things become part of who we are and what we do.

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Be consistently consistent!
How can we become more consistent?

  1. Set realistic targets, write them down, then stick to them. Just do it! Conquer that inner ‘opt-out’ clause.
  2. Settle in for the long haul! In a ‘drive-thru’ culture, we expect results now or in 14 days tops! Results take time! That new skin care routine, exercise plan, relationships … ALL … TAKE … TIME!! When we change our disposition to expect the results of our effort to be seen ‘in time’ and gradually, then we are more likely to be consistent in our efforts knowing we need to keep on going for longer! This is not the 100m sprint – it’s a marathon!
  3. Set your sights on the compound effect!  Finally, it’s worth reminding ourselves that the more we stick with the programme, the more engrained in us that behaviour becomes and as a result, one day becomes a week, becomes a month, becomes a year, becomes ten years. Ask yourself “what will the overall effect be on my life in a years time if I keep up with this?”; “what will it be if I don’t… if I stop/start or if I dabble?”. It is known that many patients fail to finish prescribed medication and so lapse all because they gave up too soon! Stay the course – your life will thank you for it!

Would love to know what tips you have for staying consistent… how do you stick with it?


Why ‘Indies’ like Nora’s Inspire!

When the idea of Our Style of LOVE was all coming together, one of the people who came to mind as someone who was expressing her ‘Style of LOVE’ to the world was Victoria.  Victoria has a little shop in Ilkley, West Yorkshire, called Nora’s.

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Nora’s is one of those amazing shops where you walk in and love it…. you ‘get a feeling’ that makes you want to return.  What is that and why does it happen in so few places?
I believe that it occurs when a person who is the creator of the experience has been deliberate in staying true to them self and their core passions… their essence.  In turn, when we experience it and ‘get it’ it calls to something in us if that is also ‘our style’!
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I recently caught up with Victoria three years on after Nora’s first opened, to ask her about the process of stepping out on her own.

Victoria had always wanted her own shop but unsure of how or when upon leaving school, she began writing to estate agents for a job.  In her own words “I was just nosey, I loved interiors and what better way to be in the vicinity of my dream than this”.     She landed a job and towards the end of seven years she ended up working in show homes. It was this that helped align that inner calling of hers to do something with interiors even more.

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Leaving behind a secure job with well-paid salary/company car at age 25 she made the decision to open her own shop.   Despite being in the midst of the recession, she says “I never once thought it wouldn’t work”. The result is a completely unique little boutique brimming with hand-picked treasures.

“Three years in I still love getting up every single morning to go to work… it isn’t work it’s my hobby, my passion, I live it daily and I love it!”

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The hardest thing as someone who loves what they do so much is to ‘put the job down’; “I never switch off… but I like that because when its your passion there’s nothing you feel you need to switch off from! Others however do need me to, so that’s something I have to be careful with… that work/life balance.”

Maybe the key to the success thus far of Nora’s is Victoria’s expression of who she is through what she chooses to buy for her customers….. “I’m not sure what style it is….you could say it was a bit quirky, a bit different …if I like it I buy it, I wouldn’t sell anything I wouldn’t have for myself”
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I for one like that… it’s her Style of LOVE and its beautiful. The world is a better place for it!

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